Sunday, February 28, 2010

Dear Man with the Staring Problem and Girlfriend,

I guess this shouldn't just be addressed to you, this is to all the guys that have a staring problem. Admittedly I find it pretty amusing and somewhat flattering when guys check me out, so thank you. However you sir in particular you took up a notch.

For those of you reading this open letter let me give you some salient points. It was a Saturday morning, before 9:00 a.m. I have little makeup on, and have not showered and I should have since I went hot tubing the night before, also the night before I stayed up until 2 or 3 in the morning watching "Gossip Girl." Also I am wearing the same clothes I put on after work, I did not sleep in these clothes. And these clothes are led Zeppelin T-shirt that is not tight and is a crew neck. Some skinny jeans boots a long cardigan and a huge scarf. So not that I looked horrible, I just wasn't looking super fantastic. I was grabbing a morning steamed soy milk, with hazelnut syrup and waiting for my drink, with a friend.

And then you walked in, with your lady friend. I can only assume you were in some sort of relationship with her, it was before nine in the morning. You looked me up and down not once not twice, but several more times than that. Also there was prolonged staring. I wold also like to note for those of you who know me well, I was not being loud and or disruptive. I was talking with my friend in a normal-ish manner, just waiting for our morning beverages.

I have the habit of shrugging this type of stuff off, because a. what am I going to say to this stranger? "Stop looking at me?" b. I will be out of the coffee shop shortly so I can handle it for a few minutes.

Here is where I have issues. I made eye contact with him. Just a straight forward look in the eye. I really couldn't figure out why he was staring at me. And he starts acting all guilty. So I think whatever weirdo. And move on with my life.

Then this same thing happened a few times throughout the week (I must have been wearing the right clothes are something). And I start making eye contact with all these guys. I mean you were looking at me? Why is it so weird that I start looking at you? You were not being subtle about checking me out, so why are you acting all weird about it? You obviously are either really bad at it or you wanted me to catch you.

I don't really have anything else to say about this just if you are going to stare/check out girls accept that she might make eye contact with you. Also maybe you shouldn't check out a girl quite so intensely if you are with your girl, that is just plain awkward.

Love and Kisses,

Dagny

2 comments:

Ariel said...

this happens to me all the time. i used to think, maybe its my hair? maybe its my chest? then i decided maybe some guys are just weirdos. and now i just look them in the eyes like you were doing and they leave me alone. unless my brother is with me. then he threatens them with physical harm.

Dagny said...

Oh I don't really care that they check me out. I just think it is ridiculous when they go over the top or are totally obvious. It is pretty funny that your brother is so protective, though.